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What to Keep in Mind When Asking Your Child About Their Day

“How was your day?”

This is a question that parents ask their children every day. It’s also one of the most important conversations you can have with them.

When you ask your child about their day, it shows them that you care about what they’re doing and experiencing. You’re not just asking because it’s a routine question – you actually want to know! And by asking, you’re building a strong connection between you and your child, which is important at any age.


When asking how your child’s day was, there are some things to keep in mind:

  1. Start with a compliment. It could be “You look so radiant today! Did you have a good day?” or “I love how tall you’ve gotten!” or even just “I love your hugs!”
 
  1. Don’t assume anything. If you ask “How was your day?” and they say “Fine,” don’t assume that means everything went as expected! They may just be brushing you off. Ask follow up questions: “Well, what were some of the highlights?” or even “Did anything interesting happen?” However, if they are still hesitant to share, let them be. Don’t give up though. Keeping asking to show you genuinely care and eventually, your child will share.
 
  1. Focus on the positive: Start the conversation positively, such as “I’m really glad we got to go swimming today”. It will influence your child to be more enthusiastic about sharing what happened during the day. 
 
  1. Ask different questions to guide your child. Instead of asking a generic question such as “What did you do today?”, try “Tell me about recess today” or “You told me about your friend the other day. How is he?”. In this way, you help your child to focus on a conversation topic, instead of them thinking of what to say. Your child will also know that you were actively listening to them during the last conversation, and they will be more eager to have more conversations with you.

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